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My friend Dr. Peter Forrest shared this set of rules to help seniors, both prepare for and live by, to assure golden years happiness. Some will be impossible some will be difficult but I will guarantee you Rule #22 is the most important to your family and friends. I have no idea who compiled these rules and should you know advise me so I can give credits. I hope you will share this with all you know.   C Brewer


  1.  It’s time to use the money you saved up. Use it and enjoy it.  Don’t just keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it.  Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your hard-earned capital.  Enjoy the present moment. The sand in the clock may run out at any moment.
  2.  Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren. You’ve taken care of them for many years, and you’ve taught them what you could. You gave them an education, food, shelter and support. The responsibility is now theirs to earn their way.
  3.  Keep a healthy life with moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well and get your sleep. It’s easy to become sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy. Keep in touch with your doctor; get tested even when you’re feeling well. Stay informed.
  1.  Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other. The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. One day one of you will miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then. Enjoy it together.
  1.  Don’t stress over the little things.  You’ve already overcome so much in your life. You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present.   Don’t let the past drag you down or the future frighten you.
  1.   Regardless of age, always keep love alive. Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor, your surroundings, your country. We are never old as long as we have intelligence and affection.
  1.  Be proud, both inside and out. Don’t stop going to your hair salon or barber.  Do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist. Keep your perfumes and creams well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong on the inside.
  1.  Don’t lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style. There’s nothing sillier than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among youngsters. You’ve developed your own sense of what looks good on you; keep it and be proud of it. It’s part of who you are.
  1.  Read newspapers; watch the news. Go online and read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks.  You’ll be surprised which old friends you’ll meet.  Keeping in touch with what is going on and with the people you know is important at any age.  
  1.  Respect the younger generation and their opinions. They may not have the same viewpoints as ours, but they are the future and will take the world in their direction.  Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them of yesterday’s wisdom that still applies today.
  1.  Never use the phrase: “In my  time.”  Your time is now. As long as you’re alive, you are part of this time. You have been younger, but you are still you now, having fun and enjoying life.
  1.  Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly. Life is too short to waste your days in the latter mode. Spend your time with positive, cheerful people; it’ll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better. Spending your time with bitter people will make you older and harder to be around.
  1.  Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that  is). Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy. They need theirs and you need yours. If you’ve lost your partner (our deepest condolences), then find a person to move in with you and help out only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live alone.
  1.  Don’t abandon your hobbies. If you don’t have any, make new ones. You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a garden, play cards, checkers, chess dominoes, golf. You can paint, volunteer, or collect fun or meaningful items. Find something you like and spend some real time having fun with it.
  1.  Even if you don’t feel like it, try to accept invitations–baptisms, graduations, birthdays, weddings, conferences. Try to go. Get out of the house, meet people you haven’t seen in a while, experience something new (or something old). But don’t get upset when you’re not invited. Some events are limited by resources, and not everyone can be hosted. The important thing is to leave the house from time to time. Go to museums; go walk through a field. Get out there.
  1.  Be a conversationalist. Talk less and listen more. Some people go on and on about the past, not caring if their listeners are really interested. That’s a great way of reducing the desire to speak with you. Listen first and answer questions, but don’t go off into long stories unless asked to. Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much unless you really need
  2.  Try to accept situations as they are. Everyone is going through the same things, and people have a low tolerance for hearing complaints.  Always find some good things to say as well.  
  1.  Pain and discomfort go hand-in-hand with getting older. Try not to dwell on them but accept them as a part of the cycle of life we’re all going through. Try to minimize them in your mind. They are not who you are; they are something that life added to you.  If they become your entire focus, you lose sight of the person you used to be.
  1.   If you’ve been offended by others, forgive them.  If you’ve offended someone –apologize.   Don’t drag  resentment around with you.  It will make you sad and bitter.  It doesn’t matter who was right.  Someone once said, “Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.”  Don’t take that poison. Forgive and move on with your life.
  1.  If you have a strong belief,savor it  But don’t waste your time trying to convince others. They will make their own choices no matter what you tell them, and it will only bring you frustration. Live your faith and set an example. Live true to your beliefs and let that memory sway them.
  1.  Laugh.  Laugh A LOT.  Laugh at everything. Remember, you are one of the lucky ones. You managed to have a life, a long one. Many never get to this age, never get to experience a full life. But you did. So what’s not to laugh about?  Find the humor in your situation.
  1.  Take no notice of what others say about you and even less of what they might be thinking. They’ll do it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what you’ve achieved. Let them talk and don’t worry. They have no idea about your history, your memories, and the life you’ve lived so far. There’s still much to be written, so get busy writing and don’t waste time thinking about what others might think. Now is the time to be free, at peace, and as happy as you can be!

22 Remember, never vote for that lying Hillary Clinton. ANON
Share it please.  CB


Thank goodness there’s a name for this disorder. Age-Activated Attention Deficit Disorder.

This is how it manifests:

I decide to water my garden. As I turn on the hose in the driveway, I look over at my car and decide it needs washing.

As I start toward the garage, I notice mail on the porch table that I brought up from the mail box earlier. I decide to go through the mail before I wash the car.

I lay my car keys on the table, put the junk mail in the garbage can under the table,
and notice that the can is full.

So, I decide to put the bills back on the table and take out the garbage first.

But then I think, since I’m going to be near the mailbox may as well pay the bills first. I take my check book off the table, and see that there is only one check left.

My extra checks are in my desk in the study, so I go inside the house to my desk where I find the can of Pepsi I’d been drinking .

I’m going to look for my checks, but first I need to push the Pepsi aside so that I don’t accidentally knock it over.

The Pepsi is getting warm, and I decide to put it in the refrigerator to keep it cold. As I head toward the kitchen with the Pepsi, a vase of flowers on the counter catches my eye–they need water.

I put the Pepsi on the counter and discover my reading glasses that I’ve been searching for all morning. I decide I better put them back on my desk, but first I’m going to water the flowers.

I set the glasses back down on the counter, fill a container with water and suddenly spot the TV remote someone left it on the kitchen table.

I realize that tonight when we go to watch TV, I’ll be looking for the remote, but I won’t remember that it’s on the kitchen table, so I decide to put it back in the den where it belongs,

But first I’ll water the flowers. I pour some water in the flowers, but quite a bit of it spills on the floor.

So, I set the remote back on the table, then, I head down the hall trying to
Remember what I was planning to do.

At the end of the day, the car isn’t washed, the bills aren’t paid, there is a warm can of Pepsi sitting on the counter, the flowers don’t have enough water, there is still only 1 check in my check book, I can’t find the remote, I can’t find my glasses, and I don’t remember what I did with the car keys.

Then, when I try to figure out why nothing got done today, I’m really baffled because I know I was busy all day, and I’m really tired.

I realize this is a serious problem, and I’ll try to get some help for it, but first I’ll check my e-mail..

Do me a favor. share this message to everyone you know,because I don’t remember who I’ve sent it to.

Don’t laugh — if this isn’t you yet, your day is coming! I don’t remember who sent it to me, so if it was you, let me know and I will give you credit.

Thanks to my friend Dr. Forrest for providing a name for this aging process. You would think someone would make a pill to help but the pill makers are too young to understand.  C Brewer 


My great friend Rena shared this healthcare knowledge that I feel is worth sharing with all of my friends. I have no idea who amassed this wealth of knowledge and I hope you enjoy this as much as I have. No political content today.  CB

Walking can add minutes to your life. This enables you at 85 years old to spend an additional 5 months in a nursing home at $7000 per month.

My grandpa started walking five miles a day when he was 60. Now he’s 97 years old and we don’t know where he is.

I like long walks, especially when they are taken by people who annoy me.

The only reason I would take up walking is so that I could hear heavy breathing again.

I have to walk early in the morning, before my brain figures out what I’m doing..

I joined a health club last year, spent about 400 bucks. Haven’t lost a pound. Apparently you have to go there.

Every time I hear the dirty word ‘exercise’, I wash my mouth out with chocolate.

The advantage of exercising every day is so when you die, they’ll say, ‘Well, he looks good doesn’t she.’

If you are going to try cross-country skiing, start with a small country.

I know I got a lot of exercise the last few years, just getting over the hill.

We all get heavier as we get older, because there’s a lot more information in our heads. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

I love this last one!

Every time I start thinking too much about how I look, I just find a Happy Hour and by the time I leave, I look just fine.

You could run this over to your friends, but just share it with them electronically.


I can still hit a golf ball but now I can laugh if it goes in the woods, a sand trap or the lake. Aging does not improve your score. What makes me happy is that I can still hit that golf ball.

Growing old has made me become kinder to myself and less critical of myself. I’ve become my own friend.

I have watched far too many dear friends leave this world far too soon. My own brother died at 55 before he understood the great freedom that comes with growing old.

It is no one else’s business if I choose to read, write or use the computer until 3AM, or sleep until noon? A nap is now mandatory and I hide the phones to get my rest.

I will dance or sing by myself to those wonderful tunes of the 40, 50, 60 & 70’s. If I wish to remember and weep over a lost loved one or a friend, I will.

Every summer I walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over my bulging body and will dive into the waves with reckless abandon, if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from family, friends or strangers. They better pray that they will get old, the alternative sucks.

I admit that I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some events of my life are just as well forgotten. Like an overfilled computer, I eventually remember the important things.

Over the years, my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break, when you lose a loved one or when a child suffers, or even when somebody’s beloved pet gets hit by a car?

Broken hearts are what give us strength, understanding and compassion. A heart never broken, is pristine, sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turn from black to silver then gray and now white. I have my youthful laughs forever etched into the deep grooves on my face. Far too many have never laughed and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you grow older, it is easier to be positive. You should care less about what other people think. I don’t question myself anymore. I’ve earned the right to be wrong.

So let me answer my titled question, “I like being old.” It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying too much about what will be.

I sincerely hope that everyone that reads this article has a few smiles and takes a minute to tell me if they enjoyed it.  

My great friend, Wally Kittman, sent me this question that I have paraphrased and changed to reflect my personal views about growing old.

“Happy Birthday Wally”   C Brewer    June 21, 2014

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